February is the month of love. We ponder upon our romantic relationships but did you know you can be in a toxic relationship with friends and family members? Here are some signs to look out for!
1. Lack of respect for boundaries
When you are in a toxic relationship, you will notice that the other person does not respect your boundaries. Perhaps you have asked them to listen without being on their phone when you are having a conversation and they continue to breach this boundary. Maybe you have asked them to give you a few hours notice before popping in your house and they continue to show up unannounced. Whatever the case may be, you will notice that this relationship makes you feel more anxious than at peace.
2. Communication issues
Do you notice that no matter how many times you express your feelings this person continues to gaslight you, disregard you and invalidate your feelings? This could indicate that the relationship is destructive rather than constructive.
3. Power and Control
These can be tricky as they can be disguised as “love and care”. However, you will notice that you are not able to be yourself, express yourself or make decisions without this person’s approval. This dynamic is not love, it is toxic.
Please keep in mind that this list is not exhaustive; there are additional indicators of a toxic relationship. However, if you relate, please seek help. We are here for you!
